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Is Indian parenting failing to help children cope with puberty and adolescence?

Re-quoting from my earlier post ( link ): //  I really want to know:  What would  you  do if you find your adolescent daughter in a compromising position with a servant?  Do you see killing or physically abusing her out of rage as an option? Do you see this as your daughter's fault because she shamed your family or do you see this as child sexual abuse perpetrated by your servant?  Can any sexual interaction between a child and an adult be seen as anything but child sexual abuse?  Or do you consider other factors like how she dressed, whether she agreed to or not, like this judge who blamed a 10 year old for her own rape ( link )?  Do we as a society at some level see children as property in which parents have invested to uphold the family 'honor'?  Isn't our parenting system lacking in helping children cope with puberty and adolescence?   Here's  what  I think you  ought to do :   1. Fire the servant and register a complaint against him for child sexual a

Do some of us believe that parents have the option of killing their child if they find her in a compromising position?

Some of the posts written by an eminent blogger ( link , link ) following the judgment on the Talwars ( link ) prompted me to do this post. I am including excerpts from these well-written posts to drive home the point. I honestly have no opinion on who killed Aarushi and I don't intend to comment on whether the CBI court is right or not in convicting Nupur and Rajesh Talwar for Aarushi-Hemaraj's murders. [ The supreme court has already chastised the media for distaste and lack of sensitivity in covering this case ( link ). ] The blog posts which I came across ( link , link ) drew my attention to reactions to the conviction from some section of the public. This section of the public believes that if the CBI's speculation is true - that if Aarushi's parents killed her in a fit of rage upon finding their thirteen year old child in a compromising position with their servant - the Talwars shouldn't be held guilty and should be empathized with - because this section of

Baseless, malicious defamation is as big a threat to women empowerment as unauthorized surveillance

There have been so many drafts lingering around but a recent article ( link ) made me so disgusted that I had to publish this post ASAP. I'm sure by this time around, whole country must be aware of the 'Saheb-Shah tapes' involving a 'snooping scandal' ( link ) - Given all the mainstream media is covering it in every prime-time show. Now, since the opposition party and the media unanimously stress on behalf of the whole country that this is an issue of the greatest national importance, let's assume that it is so and must be probed into. Please note that my intention here is not to downplay the issue or defend Modi-Shah duo. As a woman and an Indian citizen, I only intend to throw some light on the way the issue is being analyzed by the media and the opposition (or some people associated with the opposition) ( link , link ). At first, I thought the issue was about uninformed, illegal, unauthorized surveillance on a woman ordered by Amit Shah. What the father